"Love doesn't need to be perfect it just needs to be true"
As an unmarried individual, I've never found anything explaining how to reconnect with your significant other, who is not yet your spouse. Why is that? We all know relationship's aren't always a walk in the park. But could they be easier to manage? Normally I'm just a blogger, but today I'll be your relationship coach. Once again I'm reiterating that I'm not married, yet! But, I have been in a successful relationship for several years. In theory, I guess this post could also be helpful to married couples, but I feel that's a deeper subject.
Even though I've been in a successful relationship, we still have our ups and downs. Because we're still human. But, I feel the "downs" came more with lack of communication and connection. Theodore Roosevelt said, "Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty..." This is when you'll have to ask yourself these questions. Is it worth it? Is this really the right person for me? Can I forgive this person? Can we move on from this? If you answered no to any of these questions then it's time to end the relationship, sadly. But, If you answered yes to any of these questions, then let the relationship recovery begin.
But here's the moment you've all been waiting for, how to reconnect with your partner.
Communication
Communicating is the key. There's nothing wrong with having a heart to heart conversation with your partner. Expressing your thoughts and concerns with one another. This is how your relationship will continue to grow.
Spending Time
Try to spend as much quality time together as possible doing anything and everything under the sun. For example, cooking is a perfect way to spend quality time with each other. Turn on some music and get to work.
A Date Night
This is the most important step. Even though you're in an exclusive relationship it's important to remember that your still," dating". So plan a date night at least once a week, or once every two weeks. I understand this could be challenging if you have children together. A great alternative would be to plan a romantic night in.
Affection
There's nothing wrong with showing each other a little affection, with expressing your love and gratitude for each other. Also, try to be acknowledgeable of each other time, remember they don't have to be there.
Intimacy
If your relationship allows. Become more intimate. I know this can be an uncomfortable topic for some, but there's nothing wrong with being a little romantic from time to time.
Patience
Before jumping into a relationship get to know the person first. Learn everything there is to know about your partner. Learn there likes and dislike, what they're interested in, and so on an so forth. Because you never know this could be your soul mate.
Comprise
Be willing to comprise. That's what relationships are all about. You don't have to voice your option all the time. Learn how to enjoy the little things.
The Little Things
Bring them a surprise. It doesn't have to be anything fancy. this could be their favorite drink, or food, some flowers, and maybe even a candy bar. Just something that shows that person your thinking of them.
Listening to Each Other
This is the one thing most relationship lack. Listening to one another is important because it could be the make or break in a relationship. Be the ear when they need to vent, or needs advice. But make sure to have eye contact throughout the whole conversation to your interested and respectful.
No Electronic's
Try something different try having an electronic free night. Turn off the tv, cell phones, and spend real quality time together. Use this time to catch up in a more detailed way, and start setting goals together.
Bonus
If you're in a religious-based relationship start praying together. Become connected with your partner spiritually.
These a the things that me and my partner find effective. Please give them a try and see if their helpful to you as well. Finding ways to show your partner that you care, and appreciate them is essential to a joyful relationship.
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